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There are actually four trauma responses and
of when we are going through divorce.
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finances, worried about your kids, extended
family and friends.
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Nowadays we still have those instincts.
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And we either react with fight, flight, freeze
or fawn.
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But what I want to highlight here is creating
an awareness of those responses
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you still have to co parent because potentially weddings and other
family occasions and grandkids, you name it.
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Coming back to the trauma responses, understanding
which ones your ex has that buttons that push for you and how you react to those buttons.
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The mammalian and reptilian parts of our brain
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You can change the dynamic with your ex.
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But as you start to change your actions and
reactions they will also start to change because they’ll actually just be in shock potentially.
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Sometimes there was dysfunction in the family
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But we’re not children anymore and we need
to learn to at least be aware of our behavior
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Flight is trying to escape the situation or
sometimes it’s not wanting to deal with the situation
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You just leave and get busy with something else.
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The last one is where we try and people please
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lack of ability to create any boundaries or
hold any boundaries.
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I would like to save the relationship with
my ex as much as possible so that we can be
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So I hope this was helpful and I will be making
more videos on each of the four responses
Hosted by Lee Wright
Season EBB & Flow Podcast Be Isnpired
I am a Divorce Coach and I work with my clients and community in many different areas to continue to heal and grow through the divorce process and in the years post-divorce.
This Podcast will talk about every aspect that I believe is helpful for both men and women who are navigating the choppy waters of the divorce itself, the gentle waves of healing that must take place as the divorce storm subsides and then the beautiful horizon as you look at the sun setting over the horizon and define what you want your future to look like in this next season of
