Speaker Dyland Smeder
Lee and Dylan talk about Attachment Styles from the perspective of a bell curve and how different styles can affect a relationship. Lee shares some of the dynamics she has experienced in her own relationships and how she has been working towards a more secure attachment style. They discuss some of the things that came up in the coaching Lee did with Dylan when it comes to looking at relationships from a binary perspective.
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When I was learning about attachment styles,
it was kind of like mind blowing for me


It helped me  understand some of my challenges in relationship


It really was like the attachment styles
community on Facebook was helpful


in a way that they can understand you so that they
can give you the validation that you’re looking 


People on the avoidance side come in a lot of
different varieties and they kind of struggle 


a really good relationship with this person. So
they could end up being stuck. Same way anxious 


back and come back to some semblance of healthy


people end up in what they call like situations.
A relationship that’s really not going anywhere 


security is generally just being where you are and
figuring out what coping mechanisms are coming up


so quickly in that whole reptilian part of our
brain that we don’t even realize how our reactions 


There’s a lot of people who really
deal with fear of abandonment


kind of disconnecting from your own needs and
desires, which then gets you to a place of feeling 


step of that is essentially analysis to better
understand what’s happening when it actually comes 


fears aren’t constantly driving your behavior. 


maybe I need  to choose people who are a little different to


bit of an addiction to the drama of that push pull
because there’s energy in that until there’s none. 


if you’re used to that high adrenaline push pull
and you’re kind of getting something out of that


 Yeah, it’s really incredible and
it’s eye opening because until I got to a place 


And if people are noticing that the way that
they’re looking at everything is really binary


responsibility in terms of that relationship
because the other person isn’t forcing you to  people please.

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