Lee talks about the importance of choosing your battles with your ex during the divorce process and beyond. The chances are high that your ex will keep doing many of the behaviors that drove you crazy when you were married. You can choose when to engage with your ex about these behaviors now because you can take the time to decide if it is really helpful to address them. Lee recommends asking yourself what is your agenda or end goal from bringing up an issue and do you think that by bringing up there will be a change of behavior or awareness on the part of your ex-partner. The answer to this question will help determine whether it is worthwhile bringing it up and then the choice is how you bring it up in order to keep the co-parenting relationship intact. She reminds us that it is a gift to our kids to keep a healthy co-parenting relationship and by choosing your battles with your ex, you are essentially giving your kids a gift from the heart.