He self reflection and growth that takes place during and after a divorce is immense and it can be a hard path at times but the payoff is great! There is no end destination, we are all works in progress It is key to love yourself flaws and all. 

Finding peace with your shadow and learning how to tame the parts that you want to change are all part of the journey and you can be loved by a partner as well even though you are a work in progress. Sharing your shadow with someone is what true vulnerability looks like and where true connection takes place.