Should I Stay or Should I Go?

The decision to stay in your marriage or to call it quits is one of the hardest decisions you will ever have to make.  When we get married, it is the beginning of a dream, the dream of a lifelong partner, the dream of a family, the dream of a home built together.  Deciding whether to let that dream go with no idea of what the future will look like is daunting.  

There are so many stakeholders who are impacted by this decision as well…your spouse, kids, extended family, friends, the list goes on.  And unless there is very obvious abuse, you never truly know if you are making the right decision.

For me, in the early days, I didn’t question our decision which was a mutual decision which makes it much easier.  I felt relieved.  But that does not mean there was no sadness and pain and fear along with that relief.  And even all these years post divorce, I still sometimes wonder if we made the right decision.  

But I also know that I am a happier person inside because I took the risk and did truly connect with myself.  I am not advocating leaving a marriage, it is definitely a very personal decision and not one to take lightly.  I believe every avenue should be explored before letting go of the world you have built together.  Going through therapy, making time to reconnect, working on ways to communicate together to work through differences.  Any and all efforts should be made but sometimes a relationship has just run its course.  Sometimes, in order for you both to grow, you must let each other go.  

And in the end, I also believe, if you love something and let it go, if it is meant to be, it will come back to you.  If you are truly meant to be together, the future could possibly bring you back together.  And maybe not, maybe that is not what will let you both grow into your full potential.  

But nobody can make this decision for you!!!

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